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Deja Vu

Erik is going to visit Julie.  Many years ago Julie drove with Erik from Michigan to California when he was moving.  I wondered which mountain range one of them would toss the other one off of on their journey.  Today, they are going on a hike together.  If history repeats itself, I have no concern.

I treasure the relationship they have, flavored with lots of humor.

Taking a Risk

When having guests for breakfast or brunch, I will sometimes make French toast.  I have a recipe that has become a family favorite.  Recently, I decided to try making it before the guests arrived rather than cooking after they got to my house.  I prepared the French toast, bacon, and sausage, about 30 minutes before they arrived.  I put the food in a warm oven.  It turned out perfectly as if I had just prepared it.

It feels good to try something new and have it work.

Rituals

On Thursday mornings I run two or three errands.  En route, I call Julie and talk until I get to my first store.  When I return to my car, I call Carrie until I go into the second store.  Carrie is now working on Thursday mornings and is unable to talk.  I am trying to adapt.

Change takes time.

Forgotten

My family was over for brunch to celebrate two birthdays.  My daughter noticed the word GARAGE on my note board.  I told her I had to move items in my garage to prepare for a reroofing.  She asked if the family could help before they left.  I assured her I would handle it myself.  She always thinks to offer help.  After they left, I realized I forgot to ask for help getting my Google Maps to talk to me.

They are available when I remember to ask.

Pie Again

I posted a while back about making a pie that Erik chose not to share when I gave him the leftovers.  I made an ice cream pie for Julie this weekend as she came for a visit.  She commented that she wished Isaac and Ari could have some.  They were coming over for a party at my home that night, so I called and invited them to sleep over.  They did.

Guess what they had for breakfast the next morning?

Sexism

I go to the gym three times a week.  I spend much time watching people.  There are couples who work out together or, at least, come at the same time. There are a few that draw my attention.  I am aware that the men always walk in front or the women, even when not walking single file.  There is one man who comes from the weight room and walks over to the woman on the treadmill.  He nods, she gets off the treadmill, and they walk to the front door.  He hands her his bag.  He opens the front door and exits in front of her.  She follows, bag in hand.

I have remained quiet.

Acknowledgement

I go to the gym three days a week at the same time.  I see many of the same people each time, but I have never talked to them.  I know their patterns.  I was aware that one woman I saw each time was not there for a long time.  When she returned, I was walking past her and I mentioned that I had not seen her for a long time.  She said she had foot surgery and was gone for three months.  For a few days, we smiled and said hello.  As I was leaving one day, she asked me my name and introduced me to another man she was talking to.

I now know the names of two people I have seen for almost two years.

Stuck

I went to a mixer for one of the business groups I belong to.  I do these things to network.  I am focused on maintaining referrals for my practice.  Due to work, I was a bit late and I discovered two dear friends were already there.  I had invited them.  I joined them at their table and sat there the entire time.  I was aware there were unfamiliar faces at the event, probably people worth meeting as I seek to network.  I did not.

I will never master this process, I suspect.

Pillows

I was engaged in a conversation with my daughter and her friend about pillows.  Julie specializes in this subject as she has likely tried all pillows in her pursuit of one she likes.  I disclosed that I have had my pillow for over 40 years and the looks on their faces and their grunts suggested they did not believe it was wise to have a pillow that long.  I was not convinced, but I saw some displayed at Costco.  They were king size, so I refrained.  Mine is a queen.  I reflected and decided to give it a try.  I loved it.  I bought a king size pillow cover, but my current pillowcase is a bit small.

Off to shop for my new investment today.  Likely less than 40 years.  I have aged.

Time

Went to visit Julie.  The last morning we decided to have breakfast out before being dropped at the airport.  Breakfast went quickly.  Decided to go shopping.  Worked well to be dropped at the airport as anticipated.  I had checked on my flight.  On time.  Got to gate; delayed 20 minutes.  Ended up leaving over an hour late.

Could have slept later.