A woman told me a story about her mother calling and asking if there was time to get together. The daughter does not enjoy time with her mother, but did not know how to avoid making a commitment. When she told me she said she needed to check her calendar, she smiled. When I asked her how she felt about getting together with her mother, she smiled. She smiled when she allowed herself to feel the truth: she did not want to be with her mother. Unfortunately, she still does not know how to avoid being with her. She feels guilty.
I wish she could see the smile on her face when she allows herself to experience the dislike she has toward her parent. It is more pleasant than the frown she has when she is with her.